Are People Keeping You From Your Bananas?

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Did you ever feel like people were keeping you from success and your true purpose? Have you ever felt like people put you in a box and wouldn’t see you for who you believed yourself to be – only what they believed you to be? It’s enough to make you think they’re keeping you from your bananas.

The Monkey in the Wrench
They way people act sometimes is like an experiment purported to be carried out on a series of monkeys. In the experiment, there were a handful of monkeys put in an enclosure with a ladder. On the ladder were some bananas.

Normally the bananas would be cause for celebration. Unfortunately, they were part of an experiment. Every time a monkey would try to get the bananas, a hose would spray the monkey, deterring him from the prize.

The story goes that time after time the monkeys would no longer go for the bananas; they simply gave up trying.

Monkey See, Monkey Don’t Do
After the monkeys became acclimated to the experiment, the researchers would switch out a monkey. The new monkey had no idea what the situation was. He saw the bananas and he went for the treats.

The other monkeys, aware of the dilemma, wouldn’t let him. They would pull him down and keep him from the bananas. Every time he would try, the other monkeys would swarm him and keep him from climbing. It seems the hose was no longer necessary.

An Entirely New Bunch
One by one the researchers pulled the original monkeys out of the enclosure and one by one they replaced them with other monkeys. They did this until none of the monkeys in the enclosure had been sprayed with the hose.

Not a single monkey in the bunch had any idea why they shouldn’t try for the bananas, yet not a single monkey tried for them. It seems that the monkeys had limited their peers for no reason other than learned behavior.

Taking My Bananas
When I moved out of Glens Falls to Ballston Spa, I called my previous dentist to get my records and cancel my appointments. When I told the administrator about the change, she said, “Evidently people do move out of Glens Falls.”

It struck me as so odd. The tone of the statement was very depressing, as if people in the town were trapped and would never amount to anything other than what the one town had to offer.

How limiting! I wonder how many people shared that opinion? I wonder how many people would simply see this situation as not only their lot in life but also everyone else’s? It’s as if there were no joy, just the life that has to be lived because no other choices are available.

Getting Your Bananas
It would be fascinating to say this experiment is real. I read about it a few times in my life, and as I was verifying it for this post, I found out there is no experiment anyone has found to prove that the experiment actually took place. Regardless, I think the message is still as powerful.

We all have different experiences, goals, ideas, thoughts, and abilities. What may work for us may not work for others. There are people that will constantly pull you off your ladder just because they’ve been pulled off of theirs. We don’t want to let that stop us, and we don’t want to use that experience as an excuse to do that to someone else.

Even more so, we don’t want to stop trying to climb our ladder just because someone else has given up on theirs. And we never want to stop encouraging people to keep trying their ladders.

There is an amazing life out there. Don’t waste it on people who have given up on their bananas. Determine to be persistent about going for your bananas, and help others get theirs. The only way we can truly live out our purpose, is to never give up on becoming who we are supposed to be.

David Bishop

David is CEO of Cedowin Productions, dedicated to helping you live your best life through positive habits. He has inspired tens of thousands to improve habits and communication through books, articles, workshops, and apps.

He is the creator of AweVenture, helping families enjoy fantastic, active experiences and Zombie Goals, literally making building healthy habits a game. He’s authored several books including How to Create Amazing Presentations, 7 Steps to Better Relationships, and The Man in the Pit, which helps people who have loved ones struggling with depression.

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