Turning a Bad Habit Around

Sometimes You Can’t Get Traction
Have you ever struggled with a bad habit? No matter how hard you try it seems that you just can’t get rid of it? Or have you ever wanted to create a good habit and you just can’t seem to find the motivation?

Cristi, my girlfriend, was going through the same thing. There were some habits she found it difficult to make headway on. She wanted to get rid of some bad ones, and she also wanted to create some good ones. She tried everything. She couldn’t seem to find enough motivation to keep the momentum going when times got tough.

At the same time she loved games. She’s an avid gamer and loves to score certain types of achievements. In fact, there was a particular game we played where we were both trying to collect digital pets for awhile. She was almost addicted. But that worked in her favor.

Bad or Misguided?
We like to think of certain habits as bad, but maybe they aren’t bad, just misguided. The fact that we mindlessly shovel chips in our mouth while we watch TV can be channeled to mindfully move puzzle pieces around instead. The fact that we go out to catch a smoke with our friends to socialize could be used to catch a quick lap or two around the building while we cheer each other on.

After all, you can’t just remove a bad habit. It leaves a habit vacuum. A habit is an action that is performed based on some trigger. When you remove a habit such as eating chips, you haven’t removed the trigger, such as watching TV. Every time the trigger happens, you will be compelled to act in a habitual way.

If instead of fighting against our habits, we work with them, we can replace the action with a better action when the trigger occurs. When we sit in front of the TV we can pull out a puzzle to work on. When we feel stress and need to socialize, we can take a lap around the building with our friends. That way we use the momentum of the existing habit to propel us forward in a good habit.

Real Life Achievements
And that is what I helped Cristi do. I came up with 36 different achievements in 4 categories. I created special labels that showed the achievements and put those on a knick knack shelf.

Blank Achievie Shelf
When she finished an achievement, she could fill the spot with a plastic animal that her niece and nephew painted for her. When she finished a section, she received a special dragon, which she loves almost as much as she loves cats. When she finished everything, she received 3 framed prints of dragons who act like cats.

Dragon Prints

It took a few months (some of the achievements required quite a lot of work), but she did it; she earned every animal and filled out the shelf.

The Secret Sauce
How did she do it? How did she accomplish so much in just a few simple months, things that she had been trying years to do, but couldn’t make happen?

There were several things at play here. First, we employed some “small wins”. There was an item just for existing. There was a second for reading all the achievements.

The next thing was a mix of achievements – some were hard and some were easy. The easy ones made progress feel more frequent and the hard ones made progress feel more valuable. There was even one achievement for getting 10 achievements. That made progress seem like a snowball effect.

Finished Achievie Shelf
In the end, it was fun. It was a way to connect something she enjoyed (gaming, achievement, collecting) with something she wanted to accomplish. Enjoyment became a major motivator that made her vastly more successful than she had previously been.

If you want to be successful, find the things that drive you – the things that are deep down. You want to be motivated by things that are built into you, not by external things. Even though Cristi won something external (the animals), it was really about making a positive change in her life. In the end, a five cent animal doesn’t mean anything to her, but being in a better place financially does.

Even the prints are more motivation than reward. Now, every time she looks at the prints she can remember how hard she worked, and be motivated to push forward again.

Making the Change
To do this, you simply need to do three things. First, discover your triggers. Find out what it is that causes you to perform a habit that you want to change. Second, find a positive thing to do in place of the habit. Much like doing a puzzle instead of eating chips, or taking a lap around the building instead of smoking, you can find something to change your reaction to a trigger. Finally, reward yourself. Find some way to reinforce the habit. It could be a special meal once you reach a certain goal, or a bunch of plastic animals in a knick-knack shelf. Find something that will motivate you and move you in the right direction.

It doesn’t take much – just a little bit of self-awareness and a small tweak here and there to take on a bad habit. These simple steps are a doorway to improvement. Do these three things, and you can turn a bad habit into a better life.

David Bishop

David is CEO of Cedowin Productions, dedicated to helping you live your best life through positive habits. He has inspired tens of thousands to improve habits and communication through books, articles, workshops, and apps. He is the creator of AweVenture, helping families enjoy fantastic, active experiences and Zombie Goals, literally making building healthy habits a game. He’s authored several books including How to Create Amazing Presentations, 7 Steps to Better Relationships, and The Man in the Pit, which helps people who have loved ones struggling with depression.

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2 Responses

  1. David, Mind blown 🤯! What wonderful and practical advice you have offered. I am definitely going to use these techniques with habits and goals in my life. Thank you, thank you, thank you!!

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