Love Stories Are Crazy
Have you ever really considered the stories we heard growing up? The things we consider romantic often had a common theme. There was some girl who found herself in some dire situation.
She would end up going somewhere she shouldn’t go, or eating a poisoned apple, or getting trapped in a tower, or just, well, existing. Then some nefarious beast or curse or witch would hold her prisoner indefinitely.
Luckily for her some very handsome boy, usually rich, which is always a bonus, would come and save her. It was the kind of wonderful thing that birthed the phrase “fairy tale ending”.
Someone Save Me
It’s a story we love, for the same reason we love the lottery. There are so many problems to go around, the thought of someone coming and making them vanish is amazing. This is true for men and women.
I remember being divorced, feeling broke, alone, and abandoned. There were so many things that weren’t clicking in my life. I was holding out, looking for someone who understood me, who could motivate and empower me, and help me make the right decisions to put me on the path to success.
Time to Take Riding Lessons
The problem with that viewpoint and all those stories is that they focus on one thing: helplessness. Some person, better than us, will fix what we can’t fix. We have no control; they have all the control.
I’m here to tell you that your white knight isn’t coming. Thank God! Looking for your white knight is a distraction from being all that you can be. You don’t need someone to fix your problems. You are enough. The more energy and time you waste looking for the person that will save you, the less you will have to save yourself.
And when the time comes, you will find someone who you don’t rely on to give you a ride, but who you ride alongside, equally supporting each other and able to face life’s challenges together.
And for those of you who have already found your riding partner, remember not to rely on them for rides, but to equally take the reigns. Life isn’t about being rescued, it’s about finding our own way, and building strong relationships along the way.
